Thursday, October 29, 2009

Presence vs. Concern

During the sessions I've had with my different clients,I found my power tool which has helped me so many times.
Nowadays which is the time of rapid growth in technology; many times we have seen people who are anxious and worried about the future.They are physically here but mentally somewhere else. When they come to us seems they are scared about doing something or not sure how to do it.
Being at this moment make us feeling lightened, it brings a huge freedom of the future anxieties or the past related events.It also brings acceptance, trust and judgment free state of life.
In the one part of the introductory sections of "Unbearable lightness of life" Milan Kundera says that: "The absolute absence of a burden causes man to be lighter than air, to soar into the heights, take leave of the earth and his earthy being, and become only half real,his movements as free as they are insignificant.What then shall we choose? Weight or lightness? "
The German expression Einmal ist keinmal encapsulates “lightness”so: “what happens but once, might as well not have happened at all. If we have only one life to live, we might as well not have lived at all”; if concluded logically, life ultimately is insignificant. Hence,because decisions do not matter, they are rendered light, because they do not cause personal suffering.
Yet, simultaneously, the insignificance of decisions — our being — causes us great suffering,perceived as the unbearable lightness of being consequent to one’s awareness of life occurring once and never again; thus no one person’s actions are universally significant.
Said insignificance is existentially unbearable, given that people want their lives to have transcendent meaning.
The amount of lightness of life is so that we can not bear it, and so we bring our fears and concerns to give it weight without considering the disappearance of the beauty of life ,ignoring the power of growth hidden in that lightness.
When you fly you are able to see every possibility around you.When we are living in the present moment, we are making the doors of opportunities opened.When we concern about the future we may unconsciously loose the control. It seems we are in lack of trust.
What if we trust that everything has its best ending point which is empowering and brings forth.
There will be no room for concerns then, it will make us move confident to make the best choice at the present and still having the power of the change. Concern brings burden, presence brings freedom.
Think about one of the fears that you have in your life,what does this fear give to you?
Now imagine that you were a person who doesn't have your special kind of fear,what opportunities have this person in the plate?
How do you feel if you were that person?