Being in the present !

A few days ago,one of my friends asked me about how to reach my goals in this age?

She thought she was not so young to dream and also she had responsibilities to her own family at first priority , rather than follow her dreams.

We tried to clarify all of her responsibilities and her goals together,and ofcourse her priorities,....

We found out something important that is common in most similar situations,where someone is in lack of time,complaining about not being in a desired statues and so on.
Present is a gift which is given to you to be opened and enjoyed.
If you wish to have more effective Time,you need to have more presence.
To be an active listener,you should listen attentively,paraphrase whatever you've heard and ofcourse you should check perceptions.
But how to get all of those skills?
It takes some practices but it's easy.
Have you ever had experience like this: you're going to read something or study an important subject,that's required for of your job,for example.
After openning the book a flood of thoughts comes and make your mind busy to focus on what you are reading.
You've dedicated a time slot for studying but your mind is traveling in the future or the past to solve the problems concerning to the times other than the present.
The useful questions you can ask yourself is:

• Do I need a specific time slot for those problems to be solved?
• What if you make free your mind from anything that's not related to the present issue?
• What gifts might be given to you by being in the present?
• Which tools do you need to have presence?

Through answer to these questions I found myself in the present moment, I dedicated several time slots to different issues of my life and became free of future related stresses, on the other hand I learned to use my time more effectively and above all of these I made practically myself to be an active listener.

How will your dreams come true?

If you are in a cross road in your life and don't know what to do,
If you're stuck in a situation and don't know how to move forward,
If you are not sure how to make a big change to reach to your goal,If you don't believe in yourself and your abilities.It might be a good time for A NEW APPROACH …….
Have you ever thought you can't get your dreams because of your moment conditions?
Have you ever looked at your circumstances as a great opportunity to make you powerful to go straight forward to your goals?
Think about it……!!!
Every new challenge in our life has so many faces; sometimes we just look at it as if you are overwhelmed in it and suppose that's all….
In our literature, there's a short story about the people who were in a dark room and there was an elephant there.
Every one of them who tried to describe that what shape could have the elephant.
One of them who had touched the leg of the elephant had guessed that that it's something like a column.
The other person who had experienced the elephant's presence had called it a big thick paper as its ears were look like.
The other one who just had touched the trunk of it had guessed that it's a big pipe, but when the light was turned on every body could see what the whole body of the elephant would be.
Sometimes a light is needed to clear the things more, sometimes a movement is needed to get different aspects of an issue.
Imagine how things will be different if you have a full dimensional image of any subject….
What will happen?
You will find yourself in a position to make the best decision , draw the best plan choose the best movement to reach whatever you want!!
But all above these, you can clearly find what you wish to be and what will make you happy and fulfilled.
Think about these questions deeply….
Which values are most important for you?
What are you doing right now? how do you feel about it? If you feel happy then go to the next question…
"If you continue this way how will be your future? "
Imagine yourself in the future, how will be your feelings then? If you can see yourself happy and satisfied, congratulations! you are aligned with your values. But if not, go to the second question :
"What do you feel right now? "
If this is not exactly what you wanted and doesn't satisfy you then think about your values and your dreams .
What will make you happy and fulfilled?
What is missed here to have that extraordinary life? Did you find it? Don't hesitate to make a plan.
A NEW APPROACH, a new schedule, you deserve an extraordinary life… Be committed to your plan!
A plan is just your map through your journey, you should choose the best way from it! What do you need to accomplish it?
That's true! You need some tools, be careful! You should select the best ones!
So!
It might be work to separate your journey to small pieces, for each part you may need a variety of tools …
Finally! Go ahead!
Take your tools, be creative and responsible and bring them into action!
Try your best! Show off best of yours.
That's it!Like what I learnt as Re-Framing tool.

How do I start a new approach!

Starting a new approach is absolutely depends on your perspective,it means how to look at a situation.
Have you ever heard of holograms?http://www.holo.com/holo//book/book.html
They are 3-Dimensional images that help you see a picture from different sides in different positions.
It is simply provided by some kinds of instruments using a laser beam as a reference and a laser shining the selected object,these instruments are used to measure the phase difference created by a reflected laser ray from an object and the reference beam to make a multi dimensional pictures.
I found Coaching like that instruments and especially that reference source of light which clarify an issue by means of showing different perspectives to give people the ability of seeing different aspects of a subject.
In this case one can be in touch with different angles of the specific issue,this can help him/her to decide which way is better to go.
Asking meaningful questions works as a torch that brightens the existed darkness in an image that people may have in their mind from an issue.
I think it's the most essencial part of coaching,actually the first step to help people as a coach.
It can help to start a new approach ,sometimes we are stuck in a difficult situation,because of our old visions and perspectives so that can't see how easy would that be to make things right.